Monday, January 12, 2015

A conversation with a horrible mother

     So, there is this girl who has been a friend of our family since before she was born; her mother has been best friends with my aunt since they were kids, and this girl is, or was, best friends with my cousin because they are around the same age.
     Well, this girl, who is 23/24 years old maybe, has two children with her boyfriend who she lives with. A boy and a girl. However, her children do not live with them.
     Her kids are literally one year apart. Both of their birthdays are in the same month, one year apart.
     When her son was a couple of months old, she was working and her oh so lovely boyfriend was home watching the kids, and when she came home, her son's elbow was dislocated from the socket, and there were cigarette burns on his feet.
     Not being a complete idiot, she took her son to the hospital, where, of course, CPS was called, and an investigation started. Turned out, baby daddy did it. He said it was an accident, fucking idiot, because how do you accidently burn your baby with a cigarette, and dislocate their fucking elbow??
     Well, she's fucking stupid because she refused to leave him. He doesn't work, she brings home all the money and supports his drug habit, and from what I've heard, he's an abusive, control freak who probably has her too scared to leave. But since she wouldn't leave him, she lost custody of both of her kids, and her mom has custody of them now.

     Well today, she posted this lovely message online:
"Can't believe our babies are going to be older siblings. It doesn't seem possible! Can't wait for babygirl to arrive ♥"
     I WANT TO SLAP YOU IN THE FACE SO FUCKING HARD, BUT I CAN'T, BECAUSE, 1, YOU'RE PREGNANT, AND 2, I'M SURE THE "LOVE OF YOUR LIFE" PROBABLY ALREADY DOES! WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU? DO YOU THINK THIS BABY IS GOING TO BE YOUR GREAT CHANCE AT A DO OVER? DO YOU NOT KNOW THAT AS SOON AS THAT BABY IS BORN, IT'S GOING DIRECTLY INTO THE HANDS OF YOUR MOTHER? BECAUSE THEY AREN'T GOING TO LET BABYDADDY ANYWHERE NEAR THAT BABY! AND SINCE YOU'RE WITH BABYDADDY...
     THIS IS NOT HOW IT WORKS! BABIES CAN'T FIX RELATIONSHIPS! BABIES CAN'T FIX YOUR ABUSIVE, DRUG ADDICTED BOYFRIEND, AND THEY SURE AS SHIT CAN'T FIX YOUR SELF ESTEEM AND INCESSANT NEED TO FEEL LOVED. IT'S YOUR JOB TO LOVE THEM, NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND, AND IT'S KIND OF HARD TO DO THAT WHEN YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE CUSTODY OF THEM.
     GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER. STOP HAVING BABIES. DUMP THIS ASSHOLE AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE. YOU HAVE A FAMILY WHO WILL SUPPORT YOU. YOU CAN GET A RESTRAINING ORDER AND IF HE COMES ANYWHERE NEAR YOU, HE GOES TO JAIL, AND IF HE'S IN JAIL, HE CAN'T HURT YOU. HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU. IT'S AN ILLUSION.
     And the most fucked up part of this whole situation is that your poor, innocent children won't ever even know who you really are... They will never call YOU Mom.
     How does that make you feel?

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